Ask Alexa: I want to enjoy masturbation but was taught my semen is pure

Dear Alexa,

I have a query regarding self-pleasure. Why it is a stigma for men like myself to have self-pleasure with sex toys? I am made religiously believed that my semen is pure & not to be spilled causing offense. I wanted to break this stigma and want to enjoy self-pleasure in ejaculation with sex toys. Could you also suggest a few toys?

I totally get where you're coming from, and breaking down these stigmas around self-pleasure and sex toys is something I'm passionate about. It's unfortunate that cultural and religious beliefs have given this sense of shame and guilt around something as natural as self-pleasure.

But here's the thing: masturbation is a completely normal and healthy part of human sexuality, regardless of what anyone else might say. Using sex toys to enhance your solo play is just another way to explore your desires and find pleasure in your own body.

Here are some steps you can take to break free from those stigmas and embrace the use of sex toys:

• Educate yourself: Learn about the benefits of self-pleasure and the variety of sex toys available. Understanding the facts can help dispel myths and misconceptions. See my favorite recommendations here.

• Challenge beliefs: Question the cultural and religious beliefs that promote shame and guilt around self-pleasure. Remember, your sexual pleasure is valid and deserving of respect.

• Start small: If you're new to sex toys, start with something simple and non-intimidating. Experiment with different toys and techniques to find what works best for you. Remember it's a journey and you'll have bad days.

• Prioritize pleasure: Focus on your own pleasure and well-being, without worrying about societal norms or expectations. Embrace self-pleasure as a form of self-care and self-discovery.

• Seek professional guidance: Consider speaking to a therapist or sex educator who can provide support and guidance as you navigate these feelings and desires. Therapy can be a valuable tool for exploring your sexuality and breaking down barriers to pleasure.

So go ahead, break free from those stigmas, and enjoy the journey of self-discovery and pleasure. Embrace the use of sex toys with confidence and enthusiasm, knowing that you're taking control of your own pleasure and celebrating your sexuality in all its glory.

Keep exploring, keep enjoying, and remember: your pleasure is valid, your desires are valid, and you deserve to experience pleasure on your own terms.